Make Yourself Smile
There is a quote, I believe by Dita von Teese that goes something like this:
“you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches”.
We all have our interpretations, but I took that as “be the best ‘you’ that you can possibly be, because not everyone will like you and that’s ok as long as YOU like you.
I started this blog a little over a year ago just for fun (and let’s be real- I wanted a domain that was my name because that’s just cool) back when I had about 20k followers on instagram. It was at a point when I finally took the plunge and chopped my hair into a pixie which I wasn’t even 100% sure I would like. Let me be clear about that too- I ALWAYS knew I wanted a pixie cut at some point in my life, but something was holding me back from the big chop. I thought I wasn’t ready for many reasons, my main excuse to myself was because I wasn’t sure how I would look with it. In retrospect, that was not the reason at all. The real reason was because I wasn’t sure how OTHER people would think I looked with it.
I have one regret about cutting my hair- I regret not doing it sooner.
Every day on average I get a message or a DM from someone asking for my advice- most of the time it is the question “I really want a pixie, but my friends (or partner) said I shouldn’t do it. What do you think I should do?” My answer is always the same… I think you would look great with a pixie as long as that’s what you really want.
You see, there is a light inside a person that gets lit when they do something completely for themselves without needing anyone else’s approval and for me, that was cutting my hair off. It wasn’t that I didn’t like my long hair - don’t get me wrong, it was a whole heap of work… every….day, but I had fun styling it into braids, updos, and beachy waves. But when I cut it, something clicked and it had nothing to do with hair at all. It was the liberation of doing something for myself and truly not giving a damn what others thought because I liked it. Hell-I loved it, and that was all that mattered
Looking at this post as I type, I'm chuckling a bit at how short and simple it is. You see, us humans like to complicate things, but some things truly are quite simple and the point of this post is simple too; it is to encourage you to do what makes you happy, without worrying what other people are going to say and think about it. If you want something bad enough that you can't stop thinking about, who really cares what someone else thinks or says? It isn’t their life to live, it’s yours and you deserve the freedom to live it without regrets.
So go back to school... drop out of school... change your college major (man, I struggled HARD with that decision myself for a while)... go on a diet... say screw your diet...chop your hair off... or get extensions that drop down to your tush - just do what makes you happy!
I’m not saying to make massive life decisions at the drop of a dime either, on the contrary, I want you to put some serious reflection and thinking into what you believe will make you happy. Practice self awareness, meditate on things and talk them over with people who support you. All of these things help get you to a better understanding of what choices will make you happy and once you know, you know- so what are you waiting for?